Sexual Addiction – Can One Ever Have Too Much Sex?

Many people enjoy healthy, active sexual relationships which are mutually satisfying to both parties. However, even if both individuals are invested in the relationship, there are certainly nights when one partner shows more interest in having sex than the other, and that is perfectly normal. It only verges on the abnormal if one person persistently fails to be satiated by an active sexual relationship or begins pressuring their partner for certain sexual acts that he or she is not comfortable with; in this case, the possibility of a sexual addiction may be explored. Regardless of the extent of one’s sexual activity, it is important to engage in proper penis care and always practice safe sex.

Is sexual addiction a real thing?

Sexual addiction has been a relatively hot topic in the media, with prominent celebrities, politicians and sports figures publicly announcing their addiction and seeking rehab. While naysayers may believe the umbrella of sexual addiction is just a “get out of jail free card” for bad behavior, many psychologists and psychotherapists believe sexual addiction does exist and is treatable.

Simply put, sexual addiction occurs when one is overcome with thoughts and behaviors about sexual activity that are out of one’s ability to control. Just like other addictions, sexual addiction occurs when the pleasure centers in the brain fail to send the brain a message of satisfaction. Thus, an individual may continuously pursue sexual pleasure to excess, as the brain does not ever feel they have had enough.

If a person likes sex, does that make them an addict?

Plenty of people enjoy sex, food or alcohol without reaching the level of addiction. The clinical definition of addiction encompasses behavior that interferes with other aspects of daily living. For instance, if an individual cannot hold down a job because they are perpetually surfing the Internet for porn, they may have reached the level of addiction, as it is clearly interfering with their overall functioning. Or, if a string of failed relationships have directly resulted from sexual pursuits outside of the relationship, one may have a problem. Additionally, if a person has made unsuccessful attempts to cut back or stop certain sexual pursuits altogether – especially when it is causing harm to some area of their life – they may need to seek treatment for this maladaptive behavior.

Are there different types of sexual addiction?

While all addictions – sexual or otherwise – play on the same circuitry in the brain, there are certain types of sexual urges that are more likely to lead to compulsive, uncontrolled behavior. Often, but not always, sexual addiction revolves around dangerous, risky behaviors that seem more exciting to the individual engaging in them. Examples of risky sexual behavior include: voyeurism (watching strangers without their knowledge, often while masturbating), frotteurism (rubbing one’s genitals against an non-consenting stranger for pleasure), visiting prostitutes, engaging in unprotected sex – often with multiple partners in the same night, extramarital affairs, exhibitionism (flashing one’s genitals in public), masturbating in public, excessive use of pornography, chat rooms or phone sex. Individuals who engage in these types of behavior get a “rush” from the danger of the activities, which is enjoyable and therefore leads to repeating the actions over and over again.

Can sexual addiction be treated?

There are numerous options for individuals who feel they need help with sexual addiction. Many inpatient treatment facilities are available; while in treatment, patients participate in individual and group therapy. They may receive medication management and learn coping skills to deal with their addiction. Less severe individuals may find success working with a sex therapist in an outpatient setting. There are also numerous free support groups and 12-step programs.

Sexual health care

All sexually active men – whether they suffer from addiction or not – need to engage in daily penis care in order to maintain their sexual health. Condoms should be used with all sexual encounters to prevent the transmission of diseases. Additionally, a penis health cream may be applied daily (most professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil). A penis cream that specially formulated with vitamins and minerals can help prevent cracked penis skin, improve circulation to the area and enhance sensitivity.

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Sexual Stages of a Woman

I thought it would be fun to look at some of the emotional, physical and sexual stages of a woman ranging from the most impressionable to the most enlightened and come up with some practical solutions to help empower her. Below are four categories to make it easy to differentiate, but of course there are women who fit into more than one category. Which do you identify with the most?

#1 The Impressionable Woman may be:
– Young
– Dating
– Newly wed
– High energy
– Ambitious
– New mom
– Unable to orgasm
– Sexually experimental

Your body should be in its peak and this is the time to start taking good care of it. I have an analogy that I like to use for our body and that is that this is the car we have been given on this planet so we better service it regularly. Whether you have a sleek sports car, a luxury sedan, compact, or a truck, it’s up to you to keep it running. Have regular check-ups, listen to your body, eat healthy, exercise, and enjoy sex and intimacy with someone who is worthy.

What you need to know:

Accept and love your body. There is no such thing as a -normal- size, shape, look, or style. It’s time to overcome any guilt or shame about feelings of sexual desires, dreams, fantasies, and arousal because these feelings and experiences are healthy, natural, and essential for a healthy and happy woman to thrive.
Learn about your own body inside and out. This includes knowing where your clitoris is, getting familiar with your monthly cycle and how secretions change, but most importantly how you respond to different types of sexual stimulation. In fact this applies to your entire body, so take the time to discover all of your erogenous zones because you are covered in -hot spots- from head to toe and there is no way that you can communicate your personal turn-ons to a lover if you haven’t discovered them for yourself. Find out when and what makes you sexually aroused because the greater your awareness of your body, the more you’ll be able to enjoy it and the better it will work. In addition, if your future lover has not developed the skill to stimulate you to orgasm, you can show them how to do so or you can simply achieve an orgasm on your own. You won’t need to rely on or expect your lover to fulfill your sexual needs.
Always take responsibility for your own pleasure and orgasm, do not expect your lover to give it to you because sexual arousal begins between the ears and then it flows between the legs. So ladies, get into a juicy state of mind and you can sex yourself up anytime you want. If you have never experienced an orgasm, you may be suffering from gynecological, hormonal or even neurological disorders, but more commonly you could have a psychological block such as:
– Traumatic past sexual experience
– Fear of losing control of yourself
– Resentment towards your partner
– Feeling guilty about sex
– Fear of pregnancy
– Fear of intimacy
– Fear of failure
– Fear of rejection
– Ignorance about your bodies responses
– Lack of stimulation
– Low self-esteem and self-worth
– Being too inhibited
– Poor communication
– Unrealistic expectations

Always seek the help of a professional doctor or therapist if you are suffering from any kind of distress or disorder.

#2 The Professional Woman may be:
– Career minded
– Juggling marriage & career
– Mother with needy kids
– Daughter with needy mother
– Biological clock is ticking
– Enjoys mental stimulation
– Sophisticated and savvy buyer
– Wants to take sex to a higher level of intimacy

Today more than ever, women are highly respected and sought after in the world of business. Many women choose to have a successful career before embarking on motherhood while others focus on family. Either way, it’s a time in your life where you want to experience meaningful emotional and sexual relationships. That’s not to say a -quickie- can’t be satisfying but the deeper connection you can only get through mental stimulation is what turns a lot of professional women on. At this point in your life, you are more sexually confident, comfortable asking for what you want, and not afraid to go after it.

What you need to know:

If this sounds like you, then you probably have several roles including professional worker, housewife, mother, daughter, and lover just to name a few. That’s quite a balancing act so it’s important to keep your life in balance. It’s essential to do an inventory of the time you actually spend in different categories which include time with your family, work, social, personal relaxation, and intimate time with your lover. Sometimes it can become necessary to make an appointment for romance and sex. You must make it a priority in your life because you know you deserve it and in the end none of your accomplishments will mean as much as the loving memories that you have created. Even your kids will grow up, fall in love, and leave home.

Don’t get caught up in a common scenario where some women lose sexual desire after childbirth and never rekindle the passion they once had with their lover. Psychological problems can cause serious sexual dysfunctions in women; so for example, if a woman believes that being a mother does not constitute her being a sexual being, it could result in dyspareunia that causes chronic pain, exhaustion, and even interferes with the vascular and neurological systems. Always seek the help of a professional doctor or therapist if you are suffering from any kind of distress or disorder.

Make an effort to talk to your lover about what turns you on and off in specific areas such as kissing, touching, oral sex, masturbation, and intercourse because your lover cannot read your mind and your interaction can give great insight into your relationship.

#3 The Transitional Woman may be:
– In a mid-life crises
– Divorced
– Kids in school/college
– Starting a new career
– In her sexual peak
– Exhausted
– Menopausal
– Uninterested in sex

What better transition than finally finding peace of mind and tranquility. The kids are all grown up and you now have the time to rekindle the passion with your lover. Or maybe you are divorced and ready to reinvent your life and do the things you have only dreamt of. This is also a time of transition for your body so be prepared for an adjustment and celebrate the end of your monthly menstruation rather than dreading menopause. You are in your sexual peak whether you feel it or not so take advantage of those raging hormones and be adventurous by living out your fantasies. If you’re single, date men younger than yourself because their sexual peak is in their twenties and lots of men love the experience of a more mature woman.

What you need to know:

Menopause signifies a change in the brain that is translated to the pituitary gland which tells the ovaries that they are fired.

For a more scientific explanation, the output of FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) and LH (luteining hormone) ends and the ovaries stop producing estrogen and progesterone. Menopausal symptoms include: hot flushes, irritability, weight gain or water retention, elevation or diminution of libido, and rapid mood swings.

Not all women go through dramatic menopausal symptoms but for those who do, there are a myriad of helpful options available from natural supplements like Femenessence to Estrogen rings and Testosterone patches which are only available with a prescription from your doctor. The fact is that Testosterone, the male sex hormone plays a big part in women’s sexual desire, even though we have much smaller amounts than in men. In women, testosterone production is split evenly between the two ovaries and the adrenal gland and when testosterone levels are low, women’s libido diminishes.
Having said all that, these biological changes in women do not preclude sexual satisfaction so don’t panic. If you maintain a juicy state of mind, there is no reason why you can’t overcome any organic anatomical changes. A Transitional woman has been around and is well prepared with an arsenal of emergency supplies. So make sure you have plenty of lubricant before you need it, bring home some porn if you find it exciting, buy various sex toys to heat up the night, and throw away your inhibitions.
I have found that women in their forties are much more sexually confident than women in their younger years. At this age, you know what you want, like, and dislike. You have pretty much accepted yourself just the way you are and hopefully, you love and appreciate all your accomplishments big and small. You don’t want to have any regrets so you’re willing to try new things including making some of those fantasies a reality.

#4 The Enlightened Woman may be:
– Financially independent
– Looking to regain her youth
– Slowing down
– Going through bereavement
– Retired
– Wants information on estrogen-replacement therapy, supplemental testosterone, and use of a sexual enhancers and lubricants
– A grandmother
– Wise

The fact is that if you have been taking care of your health by going for regular pap and pelvic tests, your blood pressure and cholesterol tested, mammograms and colonoscopies, then your senior years should be just as enjoyable as your younger years. Even if your health is not perfect and you suffer from aches and pains, you’ll never lose your desire to give and receive love if you have a positive attitude. It’s the best prescription for a long, healthy and happy life.
If you are single, there are plenty of ways in which to pleasure yourself. Some women find it difficult to be sexual if they are widowed and feel guilty about even going out with a new person. Having sex with someone other than your late spouse can create uncomfortable feelings of betrayal. The importance is in learning to communicate in a way that will lead to your emotional and physical fulfillment because we all need to be loved and wanted, no matter what age we are.

Always seek the help of a professional doctor or therapist if you are suffering from any kind of distress or disorder.

What you need to know:

Here’s the good news. Among older women who are healthy, active and have regular sex, even if it’s just masturbation, sexual health continues past 74 years of age (AARP, 1999). And most women are able to have pleasurable sexual intercourse and to experience orgasm for their entire lives. So what if you need a little extra help with sexual enhancements. The good news is that there are some great products to help women have more comfortable, juicy sex like Zalera, a lubricant and stimulant in one formula.

Even with a decline in the production of estrogen, the vaginal walls becoming thin and inelastic, and less vaginal lubrication, the need for touch and intimacy is an essential component. The fact is that we crave touch from the moment we are born to the day we die. Even though we have noticeable loss in nerve fiber as we get older and decreased acuity in the sense of touch over the years, it appears our needs for tactile stimulation may actually increase.
Physiologically, touch supports the flow of blood and lymph. Touch can decrease blood pressure and heart rate. Touch can soothe nerves and enhance relaxation. Massage may aid the production of endorphins — brain chemicals that kill pain naturally. Healing touch affirms self-esteem, creates trust and openness, and may catalyze the release of blocked emotions as tense muscles relax. Touch can help us feel valued, peaceful, and more aware of our body and being.

Most couples will experience primary changes in their relationship. Be prepared to make changes in your communication and listening patterns so that they may lead to greater understanding of each other. Then you can deal with changes in your responsiveness and still maintain a happy and healthy sexual relationship that leaves you and your partner feeling satisfied.

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The Most Sought After Women Celebrity Fragrances of the Year

It’s that time of the year again and there are so many new fragrances from women celebrities that came out just for this year alone. I compiled these lists from sales and reviews of women celebrities’ fragrances; they are all ranging from early day to late night use. There is over 10 women celebrity fragrances featured in this article and I have included one of the most popular designer fragrances for this year.
You can use this article to help you decide on which of these perfumes to purchase for treating yourself or just simply giving that special gift for someone. Now, in the business world this information could be valuable to you or your company as it calls to enjoy for lucrative offer, which is coined with glittering lifestyle and luxury. If you are a promoter of fragrances or perfumes, I would include these celebrities’ fragrances into marketing or ads. If you have your own business or online business, adding these celebrity perfumes to a display or the main index page of your site, “home page” will help.
It’s an haute market for fragrances but in present scenario the most sought after women celebrity fragrances are:

Beyonce Heat Ultimate Elixir Fragrance

A must have if you liked the original Beyonce Heat. The description for Beyonce Heat Ultimate Elixir has turned up the glamour with the Beyonce Heat, an opulent and intoxicating twist on the original scent. Indulge yourself with this warm and sultry fragrance that captures the essence of some of the world’s most sensuous and rare flowers. The notes for Beyonce Heat Ultimate Elixir fragrance are the same for Beyonce Heat but stronger. The top notes are vanilla orchid, magnolia, neroli and peach. The mid notes for this fragrance are honeysuckle, almond and musky cream. The base notes have sequoia wood, Tonka Bean and amber. I would recommend wearing Beyonce Heat Ultimate Elixir in the early evening into the night.

Britney Spears Radiance Fragrance

It appeals to wide variety of women in all age groups. The description for Britney Spears Radiance is luscious berry and dewy petals unfold to reveal a radiant heart of luminous pure white flowers, lit from within by the glow of precious amber, wood and sexy musk. The top notes for Britney Spears Radiance are wild red berry and dewy petals. The mid notes have a pleasing African orange flower, iris, jasmine and white tuberose. The base notes for Britney Spears Radiance ends with amber, cashmere wood, and musk. You would wear Britney Spears Radiance mainly in the day though the afternoon into the early evening.

Fergie Outspoken Fragrance

Has a wonderful unique scent. The description for Fergie Outspoken is Uninhibited, Feminine, Floral and Exclusively for Avon! Outspoken is for the woman who needs no introduction. With her fearless confidence, she lets her true personality shine through. True to herself and her beliefs…she is Outspoken. Sexy, Fearless, and Unexpected. An outrageously bold expression of iced berry shockingly contrasted with ultra-feminine tuberose absolute and racy black leather. The top notes start with frozen black currant, star fruit and wild saffron. The mid notes of Fergie Outspoken have an appealing scent of jasmine and passionflower and tuberose. The base notes are ebony wood, leather and vetiver. I would advise wearing Fergie Outspoken fragrance in the early evening to late night.

Halle Berry Pure Orchid Fragrance

Has a sweet and soft scent of orchid. Halle Berry Pure Orchid’s description is sexy, seductive and playful. Pure Orchid has an exotic quality that you can wear from day to night. Pure Orchid is a floral woody fragrance expressing each woman’s unique intrigue and sensuality. Floral luminous and complex, the scent of Masdevallia Orchid changes throughout the day, becoming spicier, sexier. Halle Berry Pure Orchid has amazing top notes of Italian lemons, jungle cactus flower, and papaya nectar fizz. The mid notes are blackberry creme concentre and Masdevallia orchid. The base note consists of giant sequoia, patchouli leaf, and Tonka Bean. I would suggest wearing Halle Berry Pure Orchid during day to early evening.

Jennifer Lopez Love & Glamour Fragrance

Has a glorious and clean scent. The description for Jennifer Lopez Love & Glamour is The drama, excitement and beauty that define Jennifer Lopez are captured in fragrance and presented to you with Love and Glamour by Jennifer Lopez. The enjoyable top notes for Jennifer Lopez Love & Glamour are Italian Mandarin, Guava, and Nectarine Pulp. The mid notes are Coconut Orchid, Jasmine Petals, Orange Flower Absolute, and Water lily. The base notes finish with Amber, Musk, and Sandalwood. I would propose wearing Jennifer Lopez Love & Glamour during the day.

Katy Perry Purr Fragrance

Light sweet fruity scent. Katy Perry Purr’s description is Purr by Katy Perry eau de perfume begins with the aroma of peach nectar and forbidden apple, evolves with a distinct floral bouquet of jasmine blossom, Bulgarian rose and vanilla orchid, and slowly reveals accents of creamy sandalwood and musk. Like the singer herself, Purr is playful yet sophisticated. Katy Perry transcends barriers with her music and so does her new fragrance. Katy Perry Purr’s top notes have a mouthwatering peach and forbidden apple scents with gardenia and green bamboo scents. The mid notes are Bulgarian rose, jasmine, and pink freesia. The base notes have a coconut, vanilla orchid, musk, creamy sandalwood and white amber scents. I would mention wearing Katy Perry Purr during the day mainly.

Kate Spade Twirl Fragrance

Has a more of a floral smell. The description of Kate Spade Twirl is we’ve infused our celebratory new fragrance with a dash of joie de vivre- perfect for colorful days and cocktail soirees. Our roller ball is specially designed to be slipped into your tote (and then on into your clutch) for a touch of twirl while you’re out about town. Kate Spade Twirl has top notes of red currant and pink watermelon mingles with blackberry. The mid notes are orange blossom, star jasmine, magnolia and tiare flower. Kate Spade Twirl has French macaroon and musk. I would recommend wearing this during the day.

Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Fragrances

The collection is described as Lollipop Bling is a candy inspired collection of three fun fragrances embodying Mariah Carey’s fun loving personality. Each fragrance is bright, sparkling and multifaceted with its own signature spin.

Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Honey Fragrance description is an irresistible fragrance combining a touch of honey and pineapple, creating a bright and sunny fragrance. Fun, fabulous and irresistible. Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Honey top notes are passion fruit, pineapple juice, lemon drops. The mid notes come in with Amazon lily, fresh ginger, and white freesia. The base notes are frosted musk, linden flowers, and honey. I suggest wearing Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Honey in the day.

Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Ribbon Fragrance description is a mouthwatering fragrance inspired by the flavor of the blue raspberry Ring Pop and combined with a beautiful floral bouquet. Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Ribbon top notes start with raspberries, honeydew, and cucumber pulp. The mid notes are hydrangea, blue lotus, and jasmine dew. Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Ribbon’s base ends with liquid muck, white woods, and sugar crystals. I suggest wearing Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Ribbon during the day.

Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Mine Again Fragrance is description is a combination of chocolate raspberry and magnolia to create an addictive fragrance. The top notes of Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Mine Again are red currants, blood orange, and heliotrope. The mid notes are raspberry chocolate, magnolia. The Base notes of Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Mine Again are creamy musk, Tonka beans, and vanilla. i suggesting wearing Mariah Carey Lollipop Bling Mine Again in the early evening into the night.

Mary J. Blige My Life Fragrance

Has a more of a sweet floral Tuberose smell. Mary J. Blige My Life has a description of rock your inner diva with a perfect medley of fruit, woods and floras. A blend of femininity, confidence and strength, this celebrity fragrance spray is very sexy. Mary J. Blige My Life fragrance top notes open with Gardenia petals, Bartlett pear and white freesia. The mid notes are Tuberose, jasmine, golden lily and apricot blossom. The base notes of Mary J. Blige My Life are Cashmere woods, praline, sesame and incense. Mary J. Blige My Life fragrance is a versatile scent that can be worn any time.

Paris Hilton Tease Fragrance

Has an icy jolt of light floras and apples. The description for Paris Hilton Tease is Paris is channeling that eternal glamour for the launch of her latest fragrance Tease, inspired by her fascination with Marilyn Monroe and old Hollywood glamour. A playful, contemporary, and chypre floral with only a hint of fruit for the seductress side of the modern girl. Wearing this for a night out on the town feels all out glam, like Monroe singing “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend” in hot pink satin; but with a surprisingly sophisticated, ultra-feminine feel. For attention loving divas only! Paris Hilton Tease has top notes of apple, Bergamot, White Peach, and Sea Accord. The mid notes are Frangipani Flower, Jasmine, and Tuberose. Paris Hilton Tease has base notes of amber, Blond Woods, and Sand Accord. Wearing Paris Hilton Tease is recommended during the day to early evening.

Shakira S Fragrance

Has a fresh breath of woods and vanilla smell. The description of Shakira S is inspired by Shakira’s search for happiness, bliss and well-being. S by Shakira introduces us to Shakira’s most intimate side: a fragrance for women who, like Shakira, are enchanted by their dreams. An extremely seductive and addictive blend that reflects Shakira’s mixed origins and explores her more delicate side. Three simple accords come together, each representing three facets of Shakira. Together they form her essence. The top notes of Shakira S are jasmine and white flowers. The mid note is Sandalwood. The base notes for Shakira S are amber and vanilla. I would propose wearing Shakira S during the afternoon to early evening.

Sarah Jessica Parker SJP NYC Fragrance

Has a fruity and floral scent. SJP NYC Sarah Jessica Parker has a description of a new scent of style and a total celebration of fashion and fragrance. A deliciously addictive and colorful fruity floral built around a vivacious wild strawberry accord with a cocktail of feminine floral and creamy sensual undertones. The top notes of SJP NYC Sarah Jessica Parker are Italian Mandarin, White Osmanthus, and wild red strawberry. The mid tones are Gardenia, Honeysuckle, Mimosa, and Red Rose. The base notes for SJP NYC Sarah Jessica Parker are musk, sandalwood, rum, and vanilla. I would suggest wearing SJP NYC Sarah Jessica Parker during the day into late afternoon.

There are many other women celebrity fragrances that I didn’t mention in this article that are very pleasing. As I stated earlier, this list is based on sales and reviews of the celebrities’ fragrances. Nevertheless, in my opinion there are no top fragrances because it all depends on the lifestyle your living and your own personal opinion. The next fragrance is a designer fragrance is one of the most popular this year. I would encourage all women to try this exotic scent.

Gucci Guilty Fragrance

Has a sexy and modern smell. Gucci Guilty has a description about the feeling that you can attain whatever you want. It is about pushing your personal boundaries and experiencing the thrill of the forbidden. Without compromise, Gucci Guilty is a statement about who you are. With the richness of amber and the fresh femininity of lilac, the fragrance speaks to the bold. It awakens the senses with a daring edge of sexiness and sensuality that is Gucci. Gucci Guilty top notes open with mandarin and pink pepper. The mid notes come in with peach, lilac, and geranium. Gucci Guilty has base notes of Amber, and patchouli. I would recommend wearing Gucci Guilty during late afternoon and all night.

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Red Dead Redemption Sex Scene Insulting to Mature Gamers

There are those who will claim that anyone who doesn’t like sex in video games such as this one should just “not buy the game” and avoid “ruining the fun for others”. These are the exact types of comments that come from an immature gamer.

Sex and nudity, gore and excessive violent content do not make a game “mature” and the M for Mature rating itself is just a label to allow developers to slip this controversial content in whenever they can to draw more attention to their titles.

Rockstar has a reputation for putting nudity and sex in their games so it’s no surprise really that Red Dead Redemption would have such a scene. They proved in their Grand Theft Auto series that they like to push the boundaries of what is allowable and acceptable. Due to some heated debate over the “Hot Coffee” mini game scandal, Rockstar has kept to mostly implied sex scenes and sexuality. But in Red Dead Redemption, they decide to take it a step further and introduce sex in their games in a new way. If controversy is what they’re after, then they’ve certainly done the trick!

The famous Red Dead Redemption sex scene happens at the beginning of “The Gates of El Presidio” mission. John walks in to find Abraham Reyes (well known for consorting of women of all types) in what some would call a compromising position with a local woman on a table. This is where the problem comes in. It’s quite apparent to any mature adult that game developers could easily imply what was taking place on the table without the need for nudity or graphic sex scenes. Yet Rockstar feels we need full-on cartoon porn to get the picture.

It’s a real insult to mature gamers when developers think we need to have this type of blatant pornographic scene thrown in that has no real bearings on the mission or outcome of the game in any way. It’s an attention-seeking ploy that wouldn’t be needed if they just made great games in the first place. It’s not so much the nudity and sex itself that bothers most gamers as it is the tricky tactic that is often used to get the game in the press.

The only people interested in the potential pixilated porn would be children or other immature audiences. For the rest of us, we get what the storyline is telling us about Reyes and his ruff n’ gruff attitude and objectification of women. We understand that he relishes in his celebrity status and taking advantage of that to its fullest extent. There’s no need for the scene at all other than to draw controversial attention to a subpar game. If more time was spent improving the story line and game play, Red Dead Redemption wouldn’t need a sex scene to get people talking about it.

So what is the scene all about anyway?

The basic, clean version is that at the start of mission, John walks into a room where Reyes has a local woman on a table and is obviously having sexual intercourse with her. The woman is clothed but the clothes are pulled away to reveal the private areas. We see breasts and the sounds and animations of intercourse but we do not see male or female genitalia. The woman, startled, then jumps up from the table and begins to walk towards camera view where we get a full female frontal. Her dress is pulled away at the genitals and at the breasts.

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Chemistry in Relationships – How Sexy, Confident Women Add That Spice

Chemistry in relationships: we all want the connection and sensual spark that’s there in the beginning to stay there as the relationship grows. But chemistry in relationships is often a mystery – what it is, how to harness it, and why, so often, it flickers and fades.

The other night as I was sitting with a friend, waiting to get into a hot tub spa, she was telling me about her Master thesis, an extensive research project into chemistry in relationships, with an angle on what makes a woman most sexy and attractive. She boiled sexiness and attractiveness down to two things: a woman who is both “right” with herself and sensually alive and satisfied.

When I was 18, there were only 93 pounds on my 5’5″ frame, and I thought at least I was on my way to looking good. Although it had been 2 years since I had a regular menstrual cycle, I spent my days thinking I was unattractive and still too fat, dreamt at night of the food I wouldn’t eat in waking life and was on my way into a deep depression, I remember thinking with pride, “I am what everyone wants to be: thin.”

Over the next 7 years, I clawed my own way out of that eating disorder and body dysmorphia, but I’m an unusual case. It’s beyond epidemic, it’s pandemic: women and girls hate themselves, deeply. We mistrust our bodies and desires and strive control them any way we can. Something like more than 50% of American women would rather lose a limb than be overweight; I’ve heard it said that the average American women spends 80% of her time thinking and worrying about her appearance. Weight loss is a multi-billion dollar industry in the world’s richest, most well-fed country. Eating disorders begin as early as age 8 and 9. The newest rise in cosmetic surgery is labiaplasty – alteration of the vaginal lips – some say to look more like porn stars. Women run, like hamsters on wheels, after any method to become what we think will have us become sexy and attractive, no matter the cost to our bodies, health or spirit.

The reason women (and men, too) want so desperately to be sexy is to grasp the commodity our culture holds highest: love.

Funny, glorious, misunderstood thing, this love.

Love isn’t owned, given, taken or withheld. It can only be experienced. Love only exists as a verb. And the key to know if it is love you are experiencing is if you enjoy it and if it brings you pleasure. If you enjoy a thing or a person, it’s love; if it brings you pleasure in the doing of it, it is loving. Conversely, if you don’t enjoy it, it’s not love. It could actually be something like striving for acceptance, assuaging guilt, trying to be a good person or manipulation – but it is not love.

We all know, even though we might roll our eyes at the cliché of it, that in order to love others, we have to first love ourselves. Although that is more easily said than done, especially in a culture that teaches us to mistrust our bodies and impulses and desire, and has labeled those coming from women as the seed of all evil and sin. Our culture points outward for acceptance, salvation and love, anywhere but to ourselves.

So, then, what a radical notion, instead of reaching constantly outward, to look beneath our very noses. What a radical thing to say that what it means to love yourself is to enjoy yourself. And that the best thing to trust is your own body, your own desires and, ultimately, that what brings you most pleasure and joy. In the section of my website, Your Relationship With You, you’ll find key information and exercises to bring these rather radical notions into your relating with others.

Attractiveness and sexiness actually comes from an entirely different set of factors than superficial beauty.

So, back to the premise of my friend’s thesis. How to get “right” with yourself? The first step is to start noticing what IS, rather than what we wish to be so. We spend all our time wishing things were different, pondering why they are not different, trying to make them different, all in order to conform to our ideas of how things should go. Never do we think, in what parallel universe could things actually be different than they ARE? It is a uniquely human trait to spend so much time ignoring what IS, and creating elaborate fantasies where things are different, bent according to our ideas of what would be most convenient for us. It’s a form of craziness and certainly a source of suffering.

The second step after noticing what IS, is to notice what is already good. Our lives and selves are rich, full, convenient and blessed, if we only stop to notice and put our attention there. Something magical happens when we find something to approve of, the way things ARE, right now, right here. We “get right” with reality; we get “right” with ourselves. Approval helps us shed layers, like an onion, to find beneath a clear and wise and radiant self. Of course this is not that simple: we know really well how to disapprove, complain and find fault, so approving, especially of ourselves is an anarchistic, revolutionary act.

An extraordinary thing happens when you put genuine, positive attention (called approval) on something: it becomes beautiful. A woman who approves of herself becomes innately beautiful, radiant, sexy. A woman who approves of herself is “right” with herself, the way she is, in reality, right here and right now. She doesn’t wait to start approving of herself for the fantastical time in the indeterminate (but surely imminent) future when she will be perfect. She does it now. Today. Against the tide. Again and again and again. Whether or not she feels like it – since she usually doesn’t!

She doesn’t wait for the circumstances of her life to line up just right, she celebrates what IS, NOW. She doesn’t wait. Reasonless, and for all the best reasons, she loves herself into a sexy, attractive, radiant being.

Another funny thing happens when a woman becomes “right” with herself (approves of herself): she trusts herself. She examines the idea that inside her lies the seed of sin and that her body is a sinful temptation – and she discards the notion. She tries on the idea that her desire and her pleasure can be an instructive, generous guide, rather than something to be mistrusted. She realizes that her desires guide her to what is most pleasurable; and she realizes that if it is not pleasurable to do, it’s not loving. She realizes her desires guide her to what she enjoys most, hence what she loves most, and hence to be loving herself and her life more and more of the time.

Each act of approval, on herself, another or the world, is another act of love. Love is simply positive attention. Period.

As girls we are taught that prince charming, in one form or another, is the bringer of pleasure and sensual satisfaction. We forget we have ownership of our bodies and sexuality. We have to stop waiting for someone perfect to come along and bring our happiness, our pleasure and our sexiness. A woman is sexy and attractive who is in charge of her own sensual life, who understands herself as a sensual being and is integrated sexuality. Waiting for a white knight is a losing game. No matter how wonderful or attentive or well-meaning the knight, he doesn’t own your sexiness in order to bestow upon you in the first place – it lies right where you left it, right you-know-where.

It is that simple: start by noticing what IS, not what you wish to be. Find something little to approve of and then move on to all the big things. Follow your pleasure, your desire; drink so much in that you are filled up, sensually gratified, overflowing. It is in this state of abundant enjoyment that you become attractive, lit-up and sexy. Yes, there are things like preference of body type and pheromones and such that play into attractiveness, but that is not the most potent thing. There is no one, no thing, no combination of things, nor any particular attribute that can make you sexy. It comes from you, the authentic, expressed, un-lidded you. Sexy is self-confidence, sexy is approving of who you are, now; sexy is joy and the ability to receive. It is a mirage that sexy has much to do with exterior attributes. Sexy is a person right with themselves.

Being attractive requires us have an abundant view of the world and love. Coming from a place of scarcity, we often think that if there’s some sexiness over there, there couldn’t’ be enough to go around so that there could be some here, too. But there’s enough sexy to go around, and then some! Living abundantly requires you to take your attention off of yourself and put it on others, it requires that you look at yourself approvingly, with “good eyes.” It requires you celebrate what and who you are, right now. It is the most natural thing, meaning it is our birthright, doesn’t cost anything, and is accessible to all, should we only get out of our own way.

It is simple, but not easy. The easiest thing in the world is to find something wrong, to find something to disapprove of. The path of least resistance is the one of fear, self-loathing and an apathetic life of suffering. Whenever we find ourselves in a stuck place, as soon as we recover even a scrap of sanity, we have to make some positive effort to find good, to approve. It’s not icing on the cake – it’s the essential, key ingredient in the sweet confection. We spend so much wasted time wishing things were different, and we have to find a way to party with the way things are.

Women want to be loved because of all we are, not in spite of. We can’t wait for someone else to do it; we have to start ourselves. Plus, taking responsibility in this way puts so much less pressure on our partners to supply something they can’t supply in the first place.

So the most vital matter is what will be our reactions to what life throws at us? The only thing we have control over ultimately, is our reaction, our ability to enjoy and thus to love. We struggle to control our outward appearance, but we’d do better to turn our attention to the only thing we can really control – our own reaction to what life hands us – our circumstances, our body, our life.

I didn’t have a plan doing during those 7 years I was climbing my way to sanity and sexiness, but I can see now I was doing my own research thesis of what makes women – and people – attractive and sexy, as well as healthy and happy. I often think about the woman-hours wasted worrying about appearance and sex-appeal, and the tragedy of going about it in such a back-assward way. This is why I continue to research, why I experiment, why I create workshops, why I teach and why I work with clients: to support women and men to bring sexy back, to bring attractiveness back in its proper place, and to realize with a sigh of satisfaction, that it never left in the first place.

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Why Hot and Sexy Women Love Closet Metrosexuals

What you are about to read may shock you. I’ve got a confession to make. I, like most other hot women, am attracted to men that spend a significant amount of time and money dedicated to their appearance.

Once men accept that hot women are attracted to metrosexuals, how do they pull off the ‘look’ without appearing too over the top?

We all know that celebrity chick magnets don’t wake up looking like a million bucks. It takes time and effort to pull off that look and even more effort to make it seem effortless!
This article is for average men who want to uncover the secrets of how to attract ultra hot and exceptional looking women.

Secret #1 — Become Aware of the Way You Look

If you ask any hot woman, she knows right away what her best features are. She can also tell you which you aren’t going to get to see until you REALLY like her. We play up our best features and make sure that your total focus is on them. You want to emulate this strategy.

I want you to stand in a full length mirror. Then ask yourself, what are your best features and which should you play down. For example, if you have buff arms and thin legs make note of that. If your eyes are complemented often, but you haven’t worked out in years and it shows, make note of that.

Once you’ve fully assessed yourself, run your observations by someone else. This should be someone that you know will tell you the absolute truth.
Believe it or not, this simple task will get you well on your way to metrosexual chick magnet thinking.

Secret #2 — Dress to Impress

If up until today, you prided yourself on thinking that shopping is for women – it’s time to change your tune! I want you to start thinking that shopping is for men who have style and get chicks! I know you’ve seen pictures of Brad Pitt (the ultimate chick magnet and metrosexual) with shopping bags in his hands!

Now that you are aware of what your best attributes are, it’s time to play them up. For example, I know that I have phenomenal legs but at 5’4 they’re shorter than I would like. If I wear high heels and short skirts, men notice how great my legs are without thinking that they’re short.

Metrosexuals play up their best features with their attire. If you’re heavy in the mid section a sports coat can go a long way. If you have a great butt, feel free to wear jeans that fit well on your back side. Michael Mcquown, CEO of http://www.MatchRanger.com and self proclaimed metrosexual says, “I notice that when I wear blue shirts, women always complement me on my blue eyes.”

Some Attire Tips that Work for All Men Are:

” Always buy boot cut jeans.

” Pay attention to your shoes – style always trumps comfort!

” Size matters. If your clothing is too big, she’ll think
your mom did your shopping. If it’s too tight, she’ll be wondering if you’re homosexual instead of metrosexual.

” Match your belt color with your shoe color.

” If you’re new at this, stick with brand names that are

sold at department stores.

Secret #3 – Pay Attention to Your Grooming Habits From Hair to Hygiene

Are you aware that the women you consider hot and sexy don’t wake up looking that way? It takes work and time! If you’re planning to have some of this eye candy on YOUR arm – you’re going to have to spend some time on your grooming habits as well.

Let’s Start With the Hair on Your Head

Unless the bald look works for you, you’re going to want to spend a little bit of time and money on your hair. Find yourself a reputable salon. If you are clueless, just ask any hot woman and she’ll be able to point you in the right direction. Make sure your stylist gives you tips on how to maintain your new look.

Moving On To the Hair On Your Body

My best advice is to take MOST of it off! You can shave, wax, tweeze, or laser it off. Start with your face and work your way down. ‘Unibrow’ days are over. Properly groomed eyebrows are important to all metrosexuals. Facial hair depends on your preference. You just want to make sure it doesn’t scream, “I need a shower.” Hair on the chest is passable as long as it’s only a tiny bit. Hair on the back needs to go. Hair on the legs is perfectly acceptable as long as it’s trimmed.

What about Hair ‘Down There’?

This one is simple. Metrosexuals trim or shave completely. Bush is out!

Hygiene Musts:

” Take a shower before you go out.

” Pay attention to your teeth – a good dentist can help you score!

” Always wear cologne.

” Don’t skip the antiperspirant deodorant.

” Cut your finger and toe nails.

Secret #4 — You Want to Make it Seem Effortless

When you first start dabbling in metrosexual waters, it’s going to take time, money and lots of effort. You may have a desire to let women know all the trouble you’ve gone through to achieve your new look.
This is a pit fall and unfortunately for you, a double standard. While it may be perfectly acceptable for women to discuss their beauty secrets and mall time, you are not a woman. You are a straight male gone metro. Hot and gorgeous women are guaranteed to notice you. Let that be recognition enough for your hard work!

McQuown states that at MatchRanger.com they’ve found, “the men who get the most dates, are on to the metrosexual trend.” As an expert dating coach, I’ve had men go from having a hard time getting a date, much less an ultra hot one, to being a total chick magnet using these same techniques!

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How Sex and Pornography Affects Your Academic Performance

It was the year 2008, and I was having a splendid time in Federal Polytechnic Nekede, Owerri Imo State, Nigeria. I was one of the best in the Department of Public Administration with a first semester GPA of 3.52 and second semester GPA of 3.50 all in a scale of 4.00. The secret was simple, attend lectures regularly, take good rest and read every day. It was clear that with more effort, I will graduate with distinction, which might lead to automatic employment to be a lecturer in the Polytechnic.

In my first semester final year, I met a student called Jane. Before then my relationship with female students was platonic. My close pals were my reading partners. I and Jane’s relationship gradually turned to a sexual type. Instead of going home to rest after the day’s lectures, I went straight to Jane’s hostel. I will return home late, too weak to read.

My night reading also suffered, because I was busy making midnight calls and sleeping away the remaining time. I spent most of my time discussing with and visiting Jane. It became so bad that I couldn’t concentrate in class. I kept recalling our entire sexual escapade while lectures went on. Instead of reading for a proposed two hours, I will spend an hour thirty minutes remembering all we did and a mere thirty minutes for skeletal reading. Concentration, reading, retention and recollection became a big problem.

I met my Waterloo when Jane told she was pregnant. Immediately, my focus changed from my academics to how to deal with the child. We did all we could to get rid of the baby, from drinking of hot drinks to different concoctions, all to no avail. She kept crying around me, forcing me to get money for an abortion.

I became confused and lost total control of my academics. I couldn’t sleep at night because different thoughts enveloped my mind. Am I going to be a murderer? What if she died in the process of abortion? These and many more questions occupied my head. At a point, I started having nightmares. I kept seeing dead bodies. Then, graduating with Distinction was the least in my scale of preference.

Nevertheless, we consulted an abortionist and used my school fees to pay for his service. Painfully, I had peace. Few weeks after, I wrote my first semester HND1 examinations. The result was published a month later, and it became clear that it was impossible to graduate with distinction. My GPA was 3.27. I needed at least 3.71 to get to the top level. Everybody was disappointed including my reading partners.

I came back for my second semester determined to be the best regardless of my last semester’s result. I forgot my past and never recalled my sexual relationship with Jane. One evening Jane invited me to come to her house for sex; I refused to go. She kept alluring me, but I stood my ground. I have decided never to have sex with anyone. She became angry and stopped talking to me, yet I focused on my academics. Jane begged and cried for my return, but I kept fleeing. She started making all sorts of negative comments about me, in spite of that I remained steadfast. I read two times daily, one, immediately after the day’s lectures and another in the early hours of the morning.

After our second semester examination, I nervously went back to my home in Port Harcourt. Few weeks later, my friend Chukwudike gave me a call. He said, “George, our results are out; you are a record breaker. Your GPA is 3.75, The Head of Department and most of the lecturers want to know who Anyaehie George is.” I later graduated as the second-best in the department (distinction level).

Lesson

According to information drawn from a Canadian community health survey 43% of teens aged 15 to 19 reported that they had had sex at least once. A survey conducted by the University of New Hampshire indicated that 42% of internet users aged between 10 and 17 years said they had watched online pornography in the preceding year.

Pre-marital and pornography has become a serious problem today because sex and porn materials can be accessed easily. Sex hawkers are everywhere around the neighbourhood; we even have mobile or Internet sex. Pornographic materials are just a click away. Actors in pornographic films are now recognised as celebrities, they are called “porn stars.”

Pre-marital sex and pornography are one of the cardinal causes of academic failures. How? A vital neurotransmitter in the brain is dopamine. It has many important roles; it serves in functions such as voluntary movement, pleasure experience, motivation, reward, punishment, and learning. Sex and pornography target the dopaminergic system to release great amounts of dopamine, which results in experiencing a “high,” often leading to addiction. When released, dopamine strengthens and reinforces the new connections that are being made in the brain while an activity is undertaken. This in turn acts to encourage the individual to repeat the activity again so they can feel that pleasure once more. And when the person refuses to repeat the activity, it breeds depression, dissatisfaction and anger.

As the sexual or nude images are displayed physically or on the screen, an arousal takes place and the dopaminergic system is triggered just like it would be by drugs such as cocaine. The newly formed connections in the brain from having sex or watching pornographic images become greatly reinforced by the massive amounts of dopamine being released. Rather than going into short-term memory, where these images can be forgotten after the screen is turned off, the dopamine reinforcement ensures they’re moved into the long-term memory stores where they can be stuck in replay mode in the person’s mind. The troublesome fact about this is that the more something is recalled, the further it solidifies it in the brain. That is why you cannot easily forget sexual escapades. You can narrate how the adventure started, how it progressed and how it ended.

What’s alarming about this information is that the brain acts as a whole entity; its plasticity is global. Change in one area affects other regions. Sex and Pornography viewings can literally rewire the overall neural connections. When the brain is rewired to focus on sex or pornography, reading, understanding and recalling becomes difficult because the long-time memory has been occupied with sexual or pornographic images or scenes.

There is nothing as dangerous as “let me try it just once,” because dopamine will make you an addict. Addiction starts from one encounter or scene. It progresses from soft pornography of reading text describing sexual feelings and mild graphic images to hard pornography of graphic images of people engaging in sex and graduates to real sex. With time, the images are imprinted on the mind of whoever is consuming them, leading to addiction to sex and pornography.

Research has shown that students who have sex perform lower than those that don’t. Focus on an area leads to the loss of focus in another area. You cannot compare a married student with unmarried one; the unmarried one will be more focused. That is why some schools don’t admit married students. It is also important to state that many of the world’s greatest inventors refused to have sex or get married. Notable among them are the Wright Brothers, George Washington Carver, Nikola Tesla, Paul of Tarsus.

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